Physical, emotional and social development of the child between 7 and 13 years
The child is between 7 and 13 years old. He or she is a grown, curious and inquisitive child who takes his first steps in school and advances briskly to the upper grades.
This is a specific age of gathering a lot of knowledge, new social experience outside the family and encounters with great challenges.
During this stage, children make the greatest effort to learn about the world and make friends with other children. These efforts unfold to the stage of puberty and mark the child‘s development with achievements and growth of their ability to think, to understand more abstract concepts, to know their emotional experiences and those of others, to better control the impulses and their desires, to build relationships of cooperation and support with other people outside the family.
At this age, the child becomes more emotional, more independent and well understands his place, as well as the place of others in their world. This is a good time to start a conversation about sexual health and sexuality to prepare them for the next stage of their development during puberty and to protect them from the effects of misinformation or distorted information and risky behaviors and situations. The beginning of this conversation will help not only to gain the child‘s trust, but also to lend a hand and help them in a difficult time.
At this age, the child‘s slow and steady growth continues. Children become more and more aware individuals with each passing day. They learn to be responsible, good at something and to do things right. The main questions they ask themselves now are: „Who am I?“ And „Am I successful / am I failing?“
Between the ages of 7 and 13, children are eager to learn. Now they are ready to acquire more complex skills, such as reading, writing, knowledge about themselves, the world around them, human relationships.
This is also the age of formation of moral values. At this age, children can express their independence through disobedience, oppositional behavior, and rebellion. They may use some harsh words without realizing their meaning, as well as tend to think that sexual terms are „bad“ words. Now they learn to describe their experiences and talk about their thoughts and feelings better, have their own sense of humor and enjoy telling jokes, asking questions about pregnancy, childbirth and babies. They may be interested in comparing the behavior of animals and humans. They begin to worry about the nakedness of their bodies and seek more privacy. They already know the difference between what behavior is good and what is not.
Some children may begin to experience physical changes associated with puberty.
Emotions in children between the ages of 7 and 13 change quickly and reactions are strong. Children at this age can be sensitive and overly dramatic. They can be helpful, cheerful and pleasant, as well as rude, impudent and selfish. They begin to show more independence from parents and family. They begin to think about the future, to understand more about their place in the world, and to make sense of other people‘s views on things.
In terms of social development, children between the ages of 7 and 13 can compete when they play games, love to win, and may not be happy about losing. They enjoy group play and may be interested in joining a club or team. Now children develop close friendships with other children and friends and other children their age begin to influence how the child sees himself, others and the world at large.
The „rules“ are understood and children may need new rules for adults to add. It is normal for them to have problems with their friends from time to time, as well as to want to be wanted and liked.